If you are unable to attend a Parent Education Session government licensing and school policy requires you to complete a make up parent education, called an Alternate Parent Education (APE). This must be submitted to the Parent Education Assistant, either online or in written form, before your next duty parent shift. If the Alternate Parent Education is not returned, the parent cannot act as a teacher assistant. The parent is then responsible for finding his/her own replacement for any day they might miss.
When both parents are teacher assistants, then one parent must attend the Parent Education and General Meeting each month, while the other parent needs to read and sign the General Meeting Minutes each month, as well as complete an Alternate Parent Education each month.
In the event that a parent twice fails to submit the necessary documentation regarding Alternative Parent Education within the required time frame, the Executive Committee will review the situation and consider the family’s further participation in the school.
An alternate form of parent education may include the following:
- Attend another preschool’s parent education night;
- Attend a community workshop (i.e.: library, Parent Advisory Committee meeting, first aid course);
- Watch or listen to an appropriate educational program on TV or online;
- Attend a Council of Parent Participation Preschool or Early Childhood Education related conference;
- Observe a class at another childcare facility;
- Participate in a parenting course at night school or local college;
- Read several chapters from a book or articles from a magazine or website on early childhood education (See materials in our Parent Ed. Library).
Alternate Parent Education Form
- The form of parent education chosen
- Describe your choice (e.g., title, author, topic)
- Write a summary (paragraph or point form) on your chosen topic addressing the following questions:
- What were the main points?
- What are your thoughts on the chosen topic?
- How do you think this will or will not affect your parenting style and why?
Sample of a Complete Alternate Parent Education Form
1. I read two chapters in a book.
2. “Connected Parenting” by Jennifer Kolari
3. Synopsis of chapters:
Chapter 2- Create calm by mirroring and joining
-help your child calm by mirroring their feelings; this helps your child feel understood and safe
C- connect – give undivided attention, lean in, eye contact , put your agenda aside
A- affect – match the urgency of the child’s affect, facial expression, body language, voice tone
L-listen- listen to the actual words of your child, pay attention,
M-mirror – putting together connecting, affect and listening to our child creates genuine mirroring and a moment of deep connection
– I really like this technique in terms of connecting and strengthening our relationship
– I can see how it moves children from a deep place of anger to feeling heard, calm and able to think of solutions to a problem
– I can see how mirroring reduces power struggles and will reduce the intensity of a meltdown / tantrum b/c the child feels heard and understood and not on the defensive
– reminds us that kids need to be calm in order to really hear what parents are saying.
– reminds us that parents need to model CALM
Affect my parenting style:
-this will definitely affect my parenting style in a positive way
– will remind me to slow down emotional moments to connect, match affect and listen to my children
– reminds me that I have to achieve CALM myself before I can use CALM myself with my kids
-I will use this technique to try to sidestep power struggles and tantrums
– ultimately I will hope this continues to allow my connection and attachment grow with my relationship with my children
Chapter 4 – The Power of Parenting Together
– discusses how often one parent is more anxious that another and often one is more strict or lenient
– highlights how ideally parents are able to see things the same way, but this is not often the case.
– suggests that typically one parent becomes the limit-setter and one the ‘fun parent’. Suggests that having two parenting roles is confusing for the child.
-suggests both parents try to parent in ways that is opposite to their natural role so that they move closer together, ie the limit- setter parents tries to find moments to just connect. These are called ‘connector moments.’
– discusses how both parents use ‘mirroring’ even when children are angry and defiant to create connection
– I really like how this chapter recognizes that most parents are not identical in their parenting approach and encourages parents to move closer together to create more of a parenting team
– think the ‘connector moments’ is a positive and gentle way to challenge parents to work as a team with their partner
Affect my parenting style:
– this will affect my parenting style in a positive way though generally my husband and I are quite united with our parenting style
– I am sure though that my husband and I are both going to be able to practice some ‘connector moments’ where we can try to move closer to parenting together
– My husband and I have been working hard to really set limits that are clear, consistent and realistic and be consistent with each other around this.
– my goal is to have our kids grow up feeling emotionally safe and connected with us